
My best friend asked me an interesting question yesterday as she was watching the news: where is the revolution against patriarchy? Amidst all the political uprisings, the economic uprisings, and the social upheavals that come with these, we have yet to witness the global revolution against what is possibly the most deeply entrenched system of oppression – patriarchy.
When modern feminist movements began in the late 1800s and gained momentum in the mid-1900s, the gains they made were revolutionary for that time period, yet in hindsight seem little more than reforms. Women got the right to vote and the right to enter the labour market – but at the same time, patriarchy found new ways of oppressing them. As women were trying to be taken more seriously professionally and politically, the mass media was creating a new image of them as sexualized objects and mass consumers. One could also ask what exactly women gained from entering the labour market. Yes, they could now be responsible for themselves economically; but at the same time, they were being drawn into a global capitalist system that would go on to oppress them in different ways. Moreover, even though women began to work, domestic roles did not change much. This meant that women were still responsible for the home; and thus had to work a “double-shift” – work and then come home and work again (and of course domestic work is unpaid, until now).
Another major problem was the nature of the first feminist movements. While feminist movements began in the Middle East quite early (late 1800s in Egypt, for example), they were soon derailed because of the reality of colonization, which often forced women to choose nation above everything else. As this did not happen in the west, feminist movement were allowed to progress. However, this led to a reality whereby the first wave of feminism was a largely white, middle-class, western feminism. Although they spoke of “universal patriarchy” needing “universal solutions,” the reality was that they ignored everyone’s context except their own, and then went on to universalize that. Many first-wave feminists also had colonial undertones. This continues today when we see how certain western feminists speak about women in the Muslim world – as victims, as oppressed by Arab men who are essentially violent, as backwards, as children. Rather than realize that patriarchy is universal and manifests itself in different contexts differently, many feminists continue to assume that there is one patriarchy and therefore one solution.
Another problem with first-wave feminism is that it relied heavily on the idea that liberating women means getting them to work. I strongly disagree with this idea, mostly because I believe entering the capitalist economic system will only bring about different types of oppression, and will in no way liberate women in any meaningful or long-lasting manner. Rather, it appears that what has been missing in feminist movements all along is a strong focus on the social. Moreover, our modern times has seen patriarchy turn into something else: women are now oppressed differently. For example, the extreme insecurity felt by many women about how they look, their weight, etc has led to billion-dollar industries focused on weight-loss, plastic surgery, and psychology. This industry is now supposed to fix what was essentially created by patriarchy itself (hand-in-hand with capitalism and consumerism, of course).
While it is true that patriarchy operates so successfully because it operates at the economic, political, personal, and social levels, it is also seems to me that feminists have often ignored the social and personal and focused on the political and economic. However, social ideas, values, and norms are what need to change if women are ever to be “liberated.” The way women are constructed today in different societies is the problem. They are always sexualized, whether through wearing too much, too little, or nothing at all – the point is it is always about what they wear. They are still the “Other” – man is still the benchmark. They are still seen as victims – whether explicitly (man as head of the family) or implicitly (women as weaker than men and thus in need of protection). They are still stereotyped endlessly – “you’re being a girl” – “you’re so emotional” – “she wants a man who abuses her.” So it seems we are still at a point where women are being judged as women, and not as individual personalities who are created through their unique experiences and thought processes.
It is striking to note how this is similar to what other minorities go through. This is why it is important to talk about intersectionality when we talk about gender: I am not just a woman. I am a Muslim, Arab, educated, woman, and all of these aspects of my identity constantly intersect to make me Sara. This means I will experience oppression differently than my best friend, who is Ethiopian and Protestant, or my mother who is Dutch and of a different generation.
So why have we still not seen a universal revolution against patriarchy? Do we think feminism worked and that women are equal? Have we put it on the back burner (again) because of the current economic and political upheavals? At this point in my life I find myself leaning towards two answers. One is that patriarchy is the oldest and most deeply entrenched system of oppression. It has been legitimized by religion, science, politics, economics, and basically every other system that has been put in place in human history. While it is true that there have been societies with gender egalitarianism, these have been the exception not the norm. So as the oldest and deepest system, it makes sense that it will be almost impossible to remove. Moreover, to remove it we would also need to remove (or at least majorly reform) all the other systems that have been used to legitimize it, such as religion and capitalism.
Second, I want to bring up this quote:
“Women are the only oppressed group in our society that lives in intimate association with their oppressors.” Evelyn Cunningham
Is this the problem? Is the problem that we are so closely tied to men, who patriarchy uses to oppress women? They are our fathers, brothers, lovers, boyfriends, husbands, and sons. And most of them suffer from patriarchy, just in different ways than we do. There is no doubt that to be a man is usually better than to be a woman, in most situations. But this does not mean that men are not also victims of a system that only sees a certain type of man as “masculine” – i.e. heterosexual, white, strong, harsh, powerful, makes lots of money.
I’m still at a point where I don’t know the answers, if there are any. But my friend’s question really made me think. How do women continue to be such a big underclass? How have societies gotten stuck and not advanced enough socially to realize that gender, class, race, religion are constructed categories that do not say anything about an individual human being?